In July, I learned from Mark Brady's engaging neuroscience blog, The Committed Parent, that a grieving brain produces a hormonal response in the body that feels like anxiety. Now I understand better why my clients' physical symptoms don't always clear up easily, and why they stay low-energy, dizzy, disoriented, unmotivated. They may be experiencing a recent death or unresolved grief, and they don't connect that grief with ongoing or new physical symptoms. CranioSacral can help the body grieve.
Your body may be demonstrating signs of grief if you are living with:
- a diagnosis of serious illness, yours or that of someone in your family
- being overwhelmed by taking care of others before yourself, whether at home or at work
- the financial stress of chronic illness and the avalanche of difficulty this can cause
- the death of a family member, whether close or distant (this can sneak up on you or surprise you with an intensity that doesn't reflect how close you were to this person)
- the heart break of a miscarriage
- a change in relationship, like divorce or separation
- children's health issues
Your discomfort may seem logically disconnected from grief. It can show up as dizziness, as with one client whose mother died over a year ago. You might feel intense ear pain and diminished hearing; the emotional issue behind one woman's of ear symptoms was the divorce of parents at the time of her own wedding. Another woman had been experiencing migraines for the past 12 years, since the premature death of her brother; her heart break was connected to these headaches and a new symptom of hand numbness when her father-in-law and a beloved family pet died within a short time of each other.
One mother I know deals regularly and straightforwardly with her understanding of the connection between grief and the body. She brings all her children in to me because her oldest child is living with terminal illness; grief is an active element in their family life, and she wants to help all of them deal with emotions as they come up so that physical symptoms can heal. Her children can feel both their bodies and their emotions by coming in for CranioSacral.
Grief helps explain the intensity and duration of symptoms I see in my practice, especially when there's no physical trauma. What I feel present in the head can tell me that someone has not yet moved through grief. From Mark Brady I learned that stress hormones keep the pain of grieving alive long after what you'd expect, and caring for your body with CranioSacral will help you get back to living your life fully.
If you are grieving a loss, be kind to yourself, and understand that your body may be speaking in ways your consciousness can't. I can help your body move through your grief and feel better physically. Please share this post with friends and family you know who are dealing with grief --- I can help them through it.